The Gay Struggle:
If you know, please let me know!
The reason I felt the need to share this with you all is a simple one.
From 1 single act, the act of announcing to the world who we are, we end one struggle only to begin another.
We struggle, at first with who we are as individuals. We struggle with what the world thinks of us. We struggle with what God might think of us. We struggle with friends trying to set us up on dates with people that we know we will never have an interest in. We struggle to find a definition of what we are.
We try to rationalize and justify thinking to ourselves, “maybe this thing that I have is just a phase”.
It takes a lot of courage to be honest with yourself.
At least for me, these are the feelings that I had before I came out. I wondered what my family and friends would think. I wondered if it really mattered if I hid it all or not.
Once we come out (once I came out), I found a lot of support with my real friends and with my family. Some of us are not so lucky.
I have friends who’s families completely disowned them. Their fathers deny their existence, their mothers call to lecture them, to shame them, to guilt them.
As a group, we go through a lot. It’s difficult to tune it all out. From the pulpit of the church, the soap box of the media and the lack of protection of/from our government.
We are treated as lesser beings. We are protested and picketed against and our government sits up on a mountain top denying us access to some of the most basic rights and protections.
You want to server in the Army? You want to donate blood? You want to marry your partner? You want domestic partner benefits? You want to give a child who is living in an orphinage a home? Denied, denied, denied, denied and denied!
The time has come for everyone to be treated as equals. We constantly call ourselves an equal nation. If even 1 person/group is treated with a different set of standards, how can we ever truly be equal?